To (Some) Florida Prosecutors....why?

Here’s the scene.  White man with gun.  Black person with no gun.  Bang Bang.  Black person is dead.  White person goes to jail.  Black person is buried.  White person goes home.  

That just doesn’t quite make any sense does it?  Welcome to Florida!!!!

So why do Florida prosecutors keep charging people with the wrong crime?  Are they unaware they will not get a conviction?  Orrrrrrr, are they completely aware that they will not get a conviction?  Hmmmmmm.  

First degree murder has specific criteria.  It has to be proven to be premeditated, which essentially means that the person committing the crime planned to purposely harm or kill the victim.  It can also mean the person was engaged in a felony crime and happened to have harmed or killed the victim.  Now obviously, George Zimmerman and Michael Dunn did not know their victims prior to killing them (Doesn’t that just sound fucked up) so premeditation is not applicable.  They were committing no felony crime so that brings that over to the null side of the list as well.  

In my own opinion, these prosecutors are quite aware they can’t get a conviction on those first degree murder charges.  However, they are under huge amounts of pressure from the public, the media and mostly definitely the family/friends of the victim.  Are they succumbing to the pressure?  I would sincerely hope not.  That would just be one more check on the list showing they are ill equipped to handle their position.  And don’t get me wrong, it’s not a position or job I would want to have at all.  But if you can’t handle your handle, let it go.  

If you can’t get a conviction, how do you get yourself off the hook with the public, the media and the family/friends of the victim?  You do your job in court, you go before the media and make all sorts of promises to do your best.  

And then when the jury is put into a position of having to follow the rules of the law for first degree murder, they will be in a position of finishing what you couldn’t handle.  They have to find this person not guilty.  And they are subjected to the hostility of everyone.  How could the jury not convict?  Is the jury white?  Was the jury racist?  Was the jury stupid?  

The prosecutors can then go before the media and have a pity party explaining about how hard they worked and that the jury just didn’t see it their way.  BULLSHIT!!!!  

I understand that every victim’s family wants the killer to sit in the electric chair or spend 5 years beyond death in a prison cell.  But the law just doesn’t work that way.  You know it.  Lots of others know it.  Why not explain it and stick to what you can get a conviction on?  Charge the killer for the crime he committed.  It may not look as good to the family, but at the very least, you can sleep with a clear heart that you did your job the way you were supposed to do.  

Why are you making an unpaid, uneducated jury take the blame on your inability to communicate the truth about the cases?    

Roseanne and Cosby Show ~ From Rags to Riches (maybe some day)

Two of my all time favorite tv shows are Roseanne and The Cosby Show .  It wasn’t until I was much older that I realized I was living in Landford but was hoping to achieve a brownstone in Brooklyn.  I think that’s still my goal.  

We used to struggle to keep the shut off notices from piling up.  We struggled for years.  Created debt trying to live beyond our means.  But one thing that Khris and I both agree on is to NOT have anyone but us clean up or support our family.  We’ve definitely made some financial decisions that were selfish and stupid.  But we are in the process of cleaning it up and we are actually getting to a point where all this hard work and sacrifice is paying off.  

So I guess I need to find a new tv show to watch…..something in the middle of the two?  Everybody Loves Raymond?  Hmmmmm, it’s very true that I can’t stand my mother in law…..LOL…...I’ll have to think on this one.  Isn’t it really weird how some shows really are about your life?  I’ll never be classy enough to be Clair Huxtable.  But THANK YOU to all the heavens above that I am not Roseanne.  LOL.  

Fat and Staying Fat

Exactly how I got this big is the typical crap you hear all day.  I had kids, I was over 30, I got married, yada yada yada blah blah blah.  Here’s the real deal…..I ate, I didn’t move, I ate some more and I got fat.  Oh, and I stayed fat.  

I completely know every single thing I need to do to lose weight.  The only thing I can’t figure out is why I don’t do anything with all this knowledge.  Why don’t I get up off the couch and Shake My Groove Thing till I lose some weight?  Why don’t I eat those fruits and veggies each day?  Why don’t I track my daily intake?  Why don’t I drink that water?  For me, I think I found my reason.  

I thought it was laziness.  I thought I needed a new schedule.  I thought I needed inspiration.  Nope.  I am in this alone and I don’t know how to do it alone yet.  I still haven’t figured it out yet but I’m working on it.  My hubby doesn’t have time, my kids are kids.  Hmmmmm, so there’s my dilemma.  I need to work on this one.  I’ll get back to you if I figure out an answer.  LOL I have no support system of someone helping me change the eating style and to stay motivated and on task. I'm an adult. I shouldn't need help, right? WRONG!!!!

I'll shout it loud and proud.....I need help!!!! I hate being fat. I miss my thin body. I miss the energy. I miss bending to tie my shoes without moving my belly out of the way. I miss running up the stairs. Why can't I love water? Why can't I love broccoli? Why does an Lays potato chips be full of antioxidants? Why? Why? Why? LOL. Oh, drama time is done.

Autistic Child, But She’s An Adult

My daughter, Tika, is pretty freaking fabulous.  She was diagnosed at 19 months old as autistic.  I had no clue what that event meant…….sometimes I still don’t quite know what it means.  Life with her was extremely difficult and I was NOT a good mom by any means.  I was young, single, inexperienced.  But the teachers and support staff in her school system, Mercer County Special Services School District, gave us the tools to help her become the talented 24 year old young lady she is today.  

She has got to be the strongest person I’ve ever met.  When she was between the ages of about 2 until her early teens, she would frequently pull out her own hair, bang her head until she bled, etc.  She still does those things now, but she’s aware of it and why she’s doing it.  So we’ve set up ways to help her calm those feelings.  I distinctly remember the doctor’s wanting me to put her on medicines that would calm her or help her in various ways.  The school came to me and asked me one simple favor…..don’t medicate her, just let us do what we need to do and we can all do what’s best for her.  Please.  

I’ve never regretted a moment.  I do wish from time to time that she wasn’t autistic, but then she would not be the daughter I loved all these years.  She’s special beyond autism.  She’s talented.  She’s beautiful.  She’s intelligent.  She’s silly.  And she’s got the craziest giggle.  LOL.  She’s going to always be home with me and that’s ok too.  My only worry when it comes to my daughter is what will become of her when I pass away.  

How do you handle life for an autistic adult when you’re dead?  It’s called planning ahead.  The next few years, a lot of my time will be spent preparing her and our finances to cover her life beyond my own.  Who is going to handle her menopause?  Who is going to make sure she’s eating and bathing each day?  Who is going to get her those flu shots?  Haircuts?  Dental appointments?  Who will make sure she has her own space so it can be just the way she wants it?  Who will make sure no one hurts my bab

Dr. Phil & Friends

Well.  Well.  Well.

I've been tweeting for the Dr. Phil Show for nearly 6 months now and let me tell you about something that happened that's come as a big shock to me.  I made new friends.  Shocking, right?  Most of these ladies and gentleman are just out of this world nice.  And yet, it's not some big corny party because we disagree a lot.  Here are just a few of my favorite people......I like to many of them to discuss them all.  LOL.

V ~ she's the first person I've met online that I swear we were meant to be friends.  I think in a past life we already were.  She's funny, sweet and sassy.  Big heart, but definitely not a push over.  And my goodness, she is the fast FB person......she never leaves you wondering if she saw your post.  Quick Draw McGraw.  LOL.

J ~ now this miss missy has a snazzy whit that will make you cringe while you're double over laughing.  Her sarcasm is well above normal range and I'm always glad to be on her side.  LOL.  She gets along with everyone, even though she's a lot like me and can't stand the same ones I can't stand.  Snort!!! LOL.

R ~ he's the mature one.....maybe because he's one of the only guys.  But he's smart enough not to get caught up in all the drama.......he and I inbox and talk about everyone else.  SSSHHHHHHH.


Now it's the more interesting time.  Just a few words about the couple of chicks I just can't stand........maybe I should ssssssssccccccccrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeaaaaammmmmmmmmm it or ask for dozens and dozens of prayers for all the things I've been through in my life.  Sorry, two inside jokes......these two twits are very, VERY judgmental and just plain stupid.

Season 12 will be ending in a few more months.  But I'm hoping that if they bring us back to tweet for Season 13 or not, I'll still be able to find common ground with these special people.  I think it would be a pleasure to be able to travel and meet these wonderful people.  If I ever get a chance to meet them, I'm going to beg Dr. Phil's staff for coffee mugs and give them as gifts.

How Not To Raise a Daughter

After nearly 24 years of being a mom, I think I have more advice on what not to do when raising a daughter than what should be done.  According to my daughter, K, I did a really bad job.  I didn't force her into a seated position to make her do her homework.  I didn't punish her often enough.  I didn't teach her how to be an adult.  I didn't.  I didn't.  I didn't.

I also don't recall teaching her to be in debt, or do everything in her power to be borderline homeless, how to excessive amounts of tattoos, how to overly dramatic, how to drop out of college twice, etc.  I didn't.  I didn't.  I didn't.  

Maybe I was too lenient.  Maybe I should have done all those things.  But I learned I am a person of extremes.  If I had forced her into that seated position......she very well might still be sitting there.  She's a good person, don't get me wrong.  But as with most parents, I wanted her to be better than me at her age.  I'm hopeful she'll turn things around this time.

I guess my biggest challenge with her now is how to be a mom to an adult that wants a mom but doesn't want me to "mom" her.  Hmmmmm.  The foots seriously about to come down.  But again, I'm that person of extremes.......if my foot comes down, it'll probably boot her out the door before she's ready again.  I'm signing she and I up for a budgeting class to take together.  I'm hoping we can learn from the class and each other in a way that is more constructive for the both of us.

It would be really nice for her to remember that her mom never gave up on her.  I didn't.  I didn't.  I didn't.  

Tommy Sotomayor - Why Do I Have To Watch This Man? BECAUSE!!!

A while back, I stumbled across a YouTube page for a nice looking guy name Tommy Sotomayor.  He essentially creates videos discussing topics that hold his interest for various reasons.  I've seen people describe him from every angle possible.  And most of those were not too positive.  However, after watching quite a few of his videos, I have become addicted to his whit and his sarcasm, but most especially to his truth.

He slams the shit out of people.  He is harsh.  He is condescending.  He holds back nothing.  And guess what?  He doesn't really lie.  But the biggest point he explains over and over is that these are his viewpoints.  So I'm trying to figure out why people are so upset.  And I think I nailed it.  LOL.

White people get really pissed off when he's slamming the actions of certain white people.  But they are applauding him when he puts certain black people's actions down.  Then he flips the script and puts down the actions of certain black people and vice versa.  People are somewhat ridiculous.  He doesn't put down everyone.  He is very specific to the type of person that he is casting judgement on.

I guess my problem with those people is why are you sitting there watching someone disparage you on purpose.  If you think his opinions are fabricated, why are you giving them your attention?  I know why.  Because you know deep down that at least part of what he is saying describes the things about yourself that you know are full of shit.  It's even more relevant because you're not reading it.....oh no.  He's facing you on your monitor and saying it to your face.  LOL

Here's a link to just a few of Mr. Sotomayor's videos.  Enjoy!!!!  And be nice to him in his comments section.
Tommy Sotomayor TV

My Pandora Music Playlist Issues

Apparently I suck big cookies when it comes to making a playlist.  I made an 80's play list on Pandora and I was very strict for the first few days.  Then the early 90's started sneaking into my songs........but I couldn't remember what year some songs were published.  So they got the thumbs up.  Now I'm getting hit with Blurred Lines by Robin Thicke.  (thumbs down)

I don't know how to fix this.

I had started one of just soft romantic music.  I loved so many of the songs.....all slow and sexy.  I thought this would be great for romantic evenings with my husband.  Until one night we turned the playlist on.....every other song was about a broken heart or someone cheating.  Not really a highlight to be kissing my husband when any Shirley Murdock song comes on.....LOL.

So I started doing the thumbs down on lots of slow jams.  I felt like I was discovering this unknown fact in the world of slow music......most of it is NOT truly romantic.  UGH.  Now what?  And while some of her songs are great.....I can't fathom making love to Barbra Streisand music.  I need some Sade or Maxwell.

Bottom line is I have no discipline.  I hate to click the thumbs down song on any song I really like no matter what playlist it pops into.  Will my goal for music playlists ever be met?  Probably not.  Oh well.  lol

Why Am I So Hard Headed?

Wait!  What is that title?  I'm not hard headed.  Really.  LOL (lightening bolt!!!!  DUCK!)

I've been called stubborn, hard headed and unable to let go of things.  Hhmmmm, it might be true.  But guess what?  That's just me.  And probably every other person in the world.  It's always been a silly comment to me.  I have never met one single person that just automatically goes with the flow of others and never resists anything ever.

Here's another one.  "You always want everything you're own way."  Well.....yeah...duh!  Tell me a person who always wants it to be someone else's way.......go ahead, I'll wait.

foot tapping.....

foot tapping.....

I'm waiting.

Exactly.  I have always wanted what I want and whenever the hell I've wanted it.  LOL.  That's not likely to change.  The problem is you have to learn to take turns.  I don't even have any problem with that.  My mother in law had issues with that.  But I've learned not to worry about her anymore.  She's never learned about taking turns.  Actually, she's one of those people that wants her everything right now....all the time.  HAHAHAHAHA.

Human nature is to want and need and feel what we do right now.  There's nothing wrong with that at all.  It's only a question of learning not to voice it and to truly understand that we just can't have our every wish fulfilled asap.  You can't voice it because then you sound like a spoiled, bratty adult.  And that's never a good way to come across to others.  We will be very hard headed in avoiding you at all costs.

Different Types of Women

What type of woman are you?

Are you active?  Are you a mom?  Are you a volunteer type?  Are you all business?  Are you an educator?  Are you a swinging single for lifer?  Are you monogamous?  Are you the 'other' woman?  Are you sexy?  Are you a sports nut?  Are you girlie?  Are you a tom boy?

I think most of us are all of those and much more.  We like to say the media and society label us, but I think we do this too each other.  I really enjoy being able to wear so many hats.  I love the woman I've become and can't wait to see what my daughters become.  It's also fun to watch friends I've grown up with change and grow over the years.

It's never to late to try on a new hat or even get rid of one that doesn't truly fit who you are now.  The biggest consideration is that you don't label the women around you and just let them be all the women they want to be.  It's amazing how many hats I can wear at one time now.  Maybe that's the truest part of being a mature woman........how many hats you wear well at one time?  LOL.

I love being a woman.  (not that there's another option for me anyway.)

Keeping a Secret

Man Oh Man......I am such a gossiper.  An acquaintance asked me to keep a secret, but it's so juicy I immediately spilled the beans to my own personal secret keeper, my husband.  LOL, he's like a vault.  I'm like the door of the vault.....opening at every chance.  lol.

But most of the secrets I have trouble keeping are landing in one of two categories:  happy news or helpful news.  Happy news makes people smile and I love to watch people get happy.  Helpful news can easily make someone's life more simple and clear.  Both are good reasons to share a secret, I guess.  NOT.  lol.

I have found that the best way to share a secret without getting busted is to share it with someone that has no contact or knowledge of the person that originally gave me the secret.  LOL.  For the most part it works, unless you have a party or something and invite them both.  See how far you have to go when you gossip?  Trying to keep the illusion of trust among my peers can be frustrating.....LOL.